Many couples find themselves asking a variety of questions:
“How do I know of this person is the right one?”
“What if we are not compatible?”
“I don’t want to wake up in 5 years and realize I have made a mistake.”
“Things seem great, so is now a good time to work on our relationship?”
“I want to make sure we are prepared to have a good marriage, but I am not sure where to start”
Planning a wedding can be fun; but preparing to have a healthy, vibrant and lasting marriage takes intentional work. We see couples preparing to marry who are working through a variety of different issues:
• Fear, doubt, or anxiety over the decision to marry
• Issues of compatibility
• Blended families
• Second marriages
• Working through individual issues prior to marrying
• Lack of role modeling for a healthy marriage
• Spiritual issues or differences
• Communication skills
• Conflict resolution
• Past trauma or abuse interfering with current relationship
• Emotional, spiritual, or physical intimacy issues
• Prepare/Enrich assessment and discussion
Therapy Can Help
Change, even good change, can cause stress and anxiety at times. Having a connected and trained professional walk alongside of you during this transition can help. Working with someone who understands relationships, communication, and marriage can assist you and your partner in navigating these important issues prior to being married.
A Journeys therapist is well equipped to sort through the issues and will collaborate with you to decide the best approach for treatment. Our team approach, with each therapist having their own specializations, will help to assure that you find a therapist that works best for you. Treatment may include: talking through the issues, testing/assessments, practicing communication in session and outside of session, writing/journaling, reading resources related to the issue, or learning communication, relational, or parenting skills.
You may still have concerns about seeking premarital counseling…
“Isn’t it a bad sign that we already have conflict and we’re not even married yet?”
Conflict is normal in relationships. Learning how to resolve conflict in a healthy way will strengthen your relationship and increase your emotional intimacy. Talking through important issues prior to marriage is essential in laying the foundation for an emotionally, spiritually, and physically intimate marriage. Working through the issues will help you both move into the future with the intimacy and skills necessary for a long-lasting and satisfying marriage.
We generally recommend scheduling an initial assessment with a Journeys counselor to evaluate your specific needs as a couple, as well as determining best options for treatment and more precise answers to the questions you may have about the process. The Journeys team strives to provide you with the best fit professionally, and will happily direct you to the counselor with the best personality, expertise and approach for you.
Click on the suggested therapists to schedule a consultation or check out our team to connect with a therapist that's right for your situation. Most of our team members see a variety of clients, so feel free to read up on multiple options!
Need help? Contact our administrative assistant here with any questions, concerns or to be matched with a therapist that is best suited for you and your family's needs.